May 26, 2012
neil

Why are so many young men addicted to porn & gaming?

A very heplful post from Justin Taylor‘s blog

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  • The pull of pornography for me is *not* that it offers orgasm without intimacy. Rather it offers intimacy, acceptance, and a feeling of warmth and excitement. It fails to deliver on any of those things but that it what it offers and why it is so powerful. The promise, especially of soft-core porn (I’ve never really found hard-core porn appealing but realise that others do because they are struggling with different issues)is that there is a woman who wants you, who is there for you and will do anything for you. She accepts you as you are. She offers an acceptance that is rarely found in other relationships, even in the church. Of course it is a lie. She doesn’t care about me. She’s not even there anymore, but the lie is appealing which is why it can be so hard to fight against.

  • In terms of ways to get out of pornography, I hope the following reflection will be of help:

    Last night I spent time reflecting more on what the Bible says about pornography and I had a new insight when I wrote the following in response to a question that my pastor had written for me some time ago.

    “Why does God hate pornography? How does God feel about the pornography itself and how does he feel about the condition of your heart that leads you to pornography?

    Why does God hate pornography?
    God hates pornography because: 1. It is the opposite of what he designed sex for. Primarily he designed sex to be a picture of the love and intimacy between Christ and the church in which he gives himself to us and we receive from him as we submit to him. The relationship between Christ and the Church is fruitful. Just as sex produces the fruit of children, so the union between Christ and the church produces love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness and self-control and it also produces more believers as the elect see the love we have for each other and are persuaded by the gospel. Pornography tells lies about Christ. When I look at pornography I tell lies about Christ because instead of lovingly giving myself to a woman, I use her for selfish pleasure and then discard her. 2. God hates pornography because it degrades and destroys the people involved. However, this is a lesser reason than it telling lies about Christ.

    How does God feel about the pornography itself?
    He hates it with a passion because it tells lies about Christ. It’s not the case that he’s OK with the pornography itself because he has seen naked women before. He hates it because it is the result of Satan’s campaign to slander Jesus his Son. That too is how I should feel about it. How can I flirt with it when this is how God feels about it!

    How does God feel about the condition of my heart that leads me to pornography?
    He hates it. Were it not for his electing love towards me he would hate me for it too, but he has chosen me and he is passionately committed to destroying this condition of my heart. Jesus came to destroy sin. He came to destroy the work of Satan and he will destroy this condition of my heart.”

    This is a new thought to me and incredibly helpful. I haven’t thought before that in looking at pornography I am telling lies about Christ. I love Jesus and I certainly do not want to tell lies about him but that is what I’m doing when I look at pornography. This is making me have a hatred towards it that I haven’t experienced before

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